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What We Played for Week Ending January 29

by Jennifer KibbleJanuary 30, 2012

This is a weekly segment where we share what games we are currently playing for our readers to get to know us a bit better. Said games can range from retro to current and from casual to FPS games. If we’re playing it, we’ll share it. Please feel free to comment with what your playing or your opinions on the games that we’re involved with.

William: Been trying out some demos; Scarygirl, Amalur, and I’ve gotten Amy, which I’m thinking of writing something about… haven’t cracked in to that one, but it seemed to have a neat premise that I hear wasn’t executed super well…. we shall see!

Greg: Just a bit of The Old Republic. Got sick so couldn’t game as much. I did read all three books in The Hunger Games trilogy, though.

David: As ever I’ve been playing Battlefield 3 excessively. To switch things up though I’m getting ready for ME3 by completitng a second ME1/2 playthrough. As a kicker I’ve just downloaded Tropico, really looking forward to it!

Charles: I’m gearing up for ME3 as well, playing through ME2 for like the 10th time. It’s awesome how it feels fresh every single playthrough.

Brittany: Still playing MW3 as usual. Playing some Skyward Sword on the Wii too. Not a fan of the controls but meh, diggin it

Ben: Well I finished Dungeon Siege 3 and despite some weird balance problems, I enjoyed it. You can pick it up for cheap now and it is worth it. After that I played a little bit of the first Dead Space because I want to play through them both again.

Jen: Loosing myself in Star Wars: The Old Republic once again. I’m mainly playing on my Knight and Smuggler, which are my two highest toons. I did play a little Dark Side last night with family, just to get through the first Flash Point so we can make our guild on Sith side. Waiting on our fourth person to log on so we can get that started. Had an urge to play Catherine again. I’ve only played through it once so this time around I’m trying for a different ending.

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  • Ernesto Carlozzi

    We was with each other for 7 years and we moved in with each other January of this 12 months and we broke up at the finish of May. He instructed me that he does not come to feel cozy dwelling with me and desires me to get my individual location but we even now remain together. So i have to move out because it was his apartment but my identify is on the lease. Appropriate now i do not have plenty of money to shift i will have it by October 1. It been really challenging residing with him, especially because i want him. He often arrives to me to start with me so we joke around, perform fight have drinking water battle like when we was together, I can be in one space and he always comes to me to trouble me and asking me to rub his head. He says its less complicated to be friendly towards every single other instead than be mad at every other and will not chat but I really feel we are overly friendly. When one particular of cook we often make plenty of for the other particular person or if we purchase take-out its always adequate for the other person. We have been sleeping in the identical mattress because very last week because the couch is broken and smells really bad. We have not had intercourse with every single other given that we broke up. IDK know what to do it really challenging to get above him when we are playing about so much. Can a person give me advice. Im 28 and he is 29

  • Alyson Stoner,Jr

    Ok – this is the situation. I am 29, and back again in July 2010 I split from my ex fiance.
    I obtained on a dating/friend-making site. A guy messaged me by mistake. Above the next 2 weeks it was so intense with continuous texting back and forth, identical passions etc. He questioned if he could take me out for dinner.
    We fulfilled and there ended up hugs and conversation – lovely.
    Two weeks afterwards we fulfilled up once again and it was just so relaxed. I bear in mind hunting at the clock and praying for the time to slow down. The night ended in far more hugs.
    A week later on we got last minute tickets for a live performance and again there were hugs and chatting and just relaxing into eachothers company.
    The next week we went out again and it was even a lot more best – far more hugs etc.
    That evening he texted “I guess you know I’ve been kinda holding back again when it arrives to you.” Well here we go, I thought…did NOT know that. He explained he had been wanting to grab my hand, get much more affectionate etc. but did not want to at any time harm me or lead me on. He stated the instances we had been shelling out collectively had been genuinely wonderful but his daily life was complicated correct now. He put a great deal of emphasis on stating that even even though it was difficult now, it would not usually be, and that if he sorted his crap out I Would know “trust me.” I clearly stated I liked him too, but I possibly had crap of my very own to kind out right after this kind of a lengthy relationship. We agreed to be friends but created it very obvious how we felt about a single another.
    We went out again a week later to the cinema, park and for food.Then we went out yet again two weeks afterwards to a concert. We obtained into this intense (if you can explain it as that??) hug where he held his arms close to my neck from behind. It ended up heading on for 5 minutes and sooner or later the night ended with a lot more hugs.
    This all took place more than September to November. Then he commenced to go tranquil on me. Mid November he apologised for heading distant and stated that he had a great deal of crap things happening. I told him not to get worried and I was there if he ever before required a chat or a friend.
    November/December handed with significantly less texts. We stopped texting each and every night. I determine I never wanna bug him also much if he has undesirable things occurring – give him some space. I checked if he desired me to disappear altogether and he said never be silly. That I was 1 of his greatest close friends and to text when I liked. Just due to the fact he wasn’t in make contact with as much, did not imply he was not pondering of me. He questioned at one particular point on October if I Would be a date for his Xmas social gathering but it came and went. He Is constantly sent me random texts and he performs guitar so I’d get my fave songs sent to me through video, pics he drew, asking my thoughts on garments etc. We even received Xmas presents for one yet another but have nevertheless to exchange them. He acquired no presents for Xmas evidently and his mum went to his sister’s all day, so I can only presume household problems.
    January and February have been sparse with communication. I felt like I really should give him the benefit of the doubt and space to get himself again with each other with no clouding him with my texts. I was still there **every couple of days popping a smiley text and joke etc. or saying about bands he would like. The responses became significantly less and less. In an MSN chat I located out it had been his birthday and he never ever informed me. This kind of upset me as we grew to become so close. This is when I wasn’t certain what was likely on. He also told me he was nonetheless heading by means of a genuinely rough time.
    As these 2 months went on I knew I cherished him. But in the direction of the finish of Jan and Feb I sent messages and received no response. I got upset even although I realized he was getting a hard time
    I received it into my head that he just did not want to listen to from me. I believed (stupidly) that no 1 I liked was gonna like me and that I had imagined all this chemistry and attraction. I signed up for two dating web sites once more but everybody I talked to, I was comparing to HIM. I just did not seem to connect with anyone in the exact same way. It acquired to the stop of Feb and I randomly went to a fortune teller. I never commonly think in this stuff – total sceptic. However, he was precise about points he could never ever have guessed. He instructed me I had been “obsessing” about 1 gentleman who he said has rely on troubles but there is a romantic future composed for us if we just rely on one another.
    Well I was over the moon – the universe had pretty much instructed me we had been meant to be! As I went to just take myself off the dating web sites the subsequent weekend (the anniversary of my engagement a 12 months previous, so I was psychological anyway), I identified a familiar confront come up in my search. HIM. Searching FOR A RELATIONSHIP. Previous LOGGED IN In THE Very Last 30 DAYS. I did not know how to perform this. I Am a nice individual so I tried using not to jump to conclusions. I sent him a communication on there declaring “fancy viewing you on here?! Hope you locate someone x.”
    Well I obtained no response. His profile was deleted a couple of days later. I popped him a
    I guess I just feel he just isn’t two timing me as he seemed to be sincere by stating he could not get things further even if he wished to as his daily life was too complicated.

    Can you be two-timed by somebody you are not seeing romantically? He never made any committment to me other than friendship. Grrrrr.

    Thanks for the solutions btw.

  • Amie Wolken

    Alright, I Am desperate…

    I feel entirely hopeless. A small data about me; I Am a 31 y/o man of mixed ethnicities, and I’ve in no way (yes, I’m getting serious) had a critical girlfriend. I Am also a “healer” by nature. Meaning, I are likely to nurse my close friends out of undesirable relationships or nerve-racking existence situations. However, I have a tendency to have no 1 to flip to when I have problems. Which has been hard at times.
    I’m rather great looking, a small on the chubby side. But I have been instructed I have wonderful eyes and smile (thanks, orthodontics). I have not been caught beneath a rock (okay, it’s possible a little), however it may well seem that way from the surface. I grew up in a Very conservative home, and individuals values have been “haunting” me everytime I point out the word dating. I was really committed to training in HS and college, so it still left no time to be with a girlfriend. That won’t suggest the need to date wasn’t there. I just allow my craft grow to be my principal focus. I did try to date soon after college, and most of the dates went really well! However, each and every and everytime I was left empty-handed. Most telling me they assumed I was a “great friend” or a “sweetheart.” It Is like they all understood each and every other and I was encountering some bad groundhog day.

    By close to 26, I made the decision to just pack it in and concentrate on my career. All my buddies had been saying, “Don’t worry, love will hit you when you minimum assume it. Be patient….you’re a great guy!……a female would be SO lucky to have you, blah, blah, blah.” I took their guidance and in the process, I began to appreciate getting single! Properly this lasted for a couple of years, and in the meantime my career took off. But it seems like when I started searching close to again, I noticed one thing peculiar. Practically all my friends ended up getting married and obtaining families. So, I determined to check out once once again at 29 and “keep an eye out.” Just placing myself out there.

    I’ve been to museums, done plays, gone to Artwork Gallery openings, mountain bike outings, Online, etc. So I have come out of my shell a little bit in attempts to get myself out there.

    I went on a series of dates that mimicked my dates in my early 20’s: “Wow, you’re this kind of a good guy! But……” I will not require to hear the ending, I know the “but” signifies they are not interested.

    Well, I satisfied a great woman in January! I wasn’t even looking, and she contacted me (through an acquaintance) and questioned if I was available. Arrive to locate out we had a great deal of points in common, and swiftly hit it off! There was only a single problem. She lived a number of states over. Though I swore I’d never ever turn into intrigued in any individual extended distance, we talked about it and decided to just take a leap of faith. And I had every single intention IF items worked out, of relocating afterwards this year. Well, following a handful of months of speaking nearly every night time (I had to bump up my cell cellphone plan!), there was the massive date/meeting in early April. Everything went extremely well, as I even received to meet her brother and some of her close friends. We ended up the two unfortunate the extended weekend ended so fast. I sent her flowers on my return home, and she sent me a concept thanking me and declaring I was “so sweet” for sending them.

    That was the last I heard from her.

    It Can Be been a month. Nothing. No “I never feel it will work” voicemail, call or text. I’ve been trying to attain her, but to no avail.

    My globe has been entirely shattered. I truthfully imagined I met an individual who Lastly comprehended me. And I did not rush things, in hard work to make enjoy happen. Rather, I Ultimately let naturel consider its course. But nonetheless, it failed.

    It appears that soon after each failed date, I listen to “wow, you are such a sweet or nice guy. But……” My melancholy hit an all-time reduced although biking very last week, and viewing what appeared to be tons of younger couples keeping fingers and taking pleasure in every single other folks company. I could not assist thinking of my failed relationship, I had to pull in excess of and duck behind a tree to unleash a torrent of tears. The depression the previous month has been so bad, I’ve contemplated drastic measures.

    I do not know what I Am missing. I know I’m not the most seasoned with regard to dating. But I don’t think I require to have 50 dates under my belt to uncover correct love, either. I look to be a single of the very last guys on earth that believes in chivalry. Dealing With a female as an equal partner, not as my subordinate. I think in coming residence from work, and if she’s had a lengthy day aid her our with meal prep & cleaning. I’ve experimented with “making myself available” in all sorts of areas more than the final few years. All with the exact same results. Then I see lovely girl with these total geeks, Frat-boys, or thug-wannabe. And I wonder, “How the heck did that happen?!”

    I’m considering I require to just forget it all. Recognize I Am not relationship-material, for some cause or another. I guess there is no spot for an old-fashioned gentleman anymore, apart from with the 40+ crowd (Oh god, I do get looks from the cougars…but not for me, no offense.)

    To

  • Elyn Patchman

    Ok – this is the situation. I am 29, and again in July 2010 I split from my ex fiance.
    I obtained on a dating/friend-making site. A guy messaged me by mistake. Over the up coming 2 weeks it was so powerful with consistent texting back and forth, exact same interests etc. He questioned if he could consider me out for dinner.
    We met and there ended up hugs and conversation – lovely.
    Two weeks afterwards we fulfilled up yet again and it was just so relaxed. I remember seeking at the clock and praying for the time to gradual down. The night time ended in a lot more hugs.
    A week later on we obtained very last minute tickets for a concert and again there ended up hugs and chatting and just relaxing into eachothers company.
    The subsequent week we went out yet again and it was even far more ideal – much more hugs etc.
    That night he texted “I guess you know I’ve been kinda holding back again when it arrives to you.” Effectively here we go, I thought…did NOT know that. He said he had been seeking to seize my hand, get a lot more affectionate etc. but did not want to ever harm me or lead me on. He explained the times we had been paying together had been truly wonderful but his daily life was difficult correct now. He set a lot of emphasis on stating that even though it was challenging now, it wouldn’t often be, and that if he sorted his crap out I Would know “trust me.” I naturally said I liked him too, but I probably had crap of my individual to sort out after these kinds of a extended relationship. We agreed to be pals but produced it quite very clear how we felt about one particular another.
    We went out again a week later on to the cinema, park and for food.Then we went out once again two weeks afterwards to a concert. We received into this extreme (if you can explain it as that??) hug in which he held his arms around my neck from behind. It ended up heading on for 5 minutes and sooner or later the night ended with much more hugs.
    This all transpired more than September to November. Then he commenced to go quiet on me. Mid November he apologised for going distant and mentioned that he had a good deal of crap stuff happening. I informed him not to be concerned and I was there if he ever necessary a chat or a friend.
    November/December passed with significantly less texts. We stopped texting each and every night. I figure I will not wanna bug him too much if he has negative stuff occurring – give him some space. I checked if he desired me to disappear completely and he stated do not be silly. That I was 1 of his ideal pals and to text when I liked. Just simply because he was not in get in touch with as much, failed to imply he was not pondering of me. He questioned at a single point on October if I’d be a date for his Xmas social gathering but it came and went. He’s always sent me random texts and he performs guitar so I Would get my fave songs sent to me via video, pics he drew, asking my opinions on clothes etc. We even acquired Xmas presents for one yet another but have nevertheless to trade them. He obtained no presents for Xmas apparently and his mum went to his sister’s all day, so I can only presume loved ones problems.
    January and February have been sparse with communication. I felt like I should give him the advantage of the doubt and space to get himself back again jointly without having clouding him with my texts. I was nonetheless there **every handful of days popping a smiley text and joke etc. or declaring about bands he would like. The responses grew to become much less and less. In an MSN chat I discovered out it had been his birthday and he by no means informed me. This sort of upset me as we grew to become so close. This is when I was not sure what was heading on. He also instructed me he was still likely by means of a truly tough time.
    As these 2 months went on I realized I cherished him. But in direction of the end of Jan and Feb I sent messages and got no response. I got upset even however I knew he was getting a hard time
    I acquired it into my head that he just failed to want to listen to from me. I believed (stupidly) that no a single I liked was gonna like me and that I had imagined all this chemistry and attraction. I signed up for two dating sites once more but absolutely everyone I talked to, I was evaluating to HIM. I just didn’t look to connect with any person in the same way. It obtained to the stop of Feb and I randomly went to a fortune teller. I will not normally imagine in this stuff – full sceptic. However, he was precise about things he could in no way have guessed. He informed me I had been “obsessing” about a single gentleman who he said has believe in concerns but there is a romantic foreseeable future created for us if we just rely on one another.
    Well I was more than the moon – the universe had virtually informed me we had been meant to be! As I went to just take myself off the dating websites the following weekend (the anniversary of my engagement a 12 months previous, so I was emotional anyway), I identified a familiar deal with arrive up in my search. HIM. Seeking FOR A RELATIONSHIP. Previous LOGGED IN Within THE Final 30 DAYS. I did not know how to play this. I Am a wonderful man or woman so I experimented with not to leap to conclusions. I sent him a message on there stating “fancy seeing you on here?! Hope you locate an individual x.”
    Well I obtained no response. His profile was deleted a handful of days later. I popped him a
    I guess I just come to feel he just isn’t two timing me as he appeared to be sincere by stating he could not consider items further even if he desired to as his existence was much too complicated.

    Can you be two-timed by someone you might be not seeing romantically? He in no way made any committment to me other than friendship. Grrrrr.

    Thanks for the answers btw.

  • Kaden

    We was together for 7 years and we moved in together January of this year and we broke up at the end of May. He told me that he doesn’t feel comfortable living with me and wants me to get my own place but we still stay together. So i have to move out because it was his apartment but my name is on the lease. Right now i don’t have enough money to move i will have it by October 1. It been really hard living with him, especially because i want him. He always comes to me to start with me so we joke around, play fight have water fight like when we was together, I can be in one room and he always comes to me to bother me and asking me to rub his head. He says its easier to be friendly toward each other rather than be mad at each other and don’t talk but I feel we are overly friendly. When one of cook we always make enough for the other person or if we buy take-out its always enough for the other person. We have been sleeping in the same bed since last week because the sofa is broken and smells really bad. We haven’t had sex with each other since we broke up. IDK know what to do it very hard to get over him when we are playing around so much. Can someone give me advice. Im 28 and he is 29

  • shahedC

    I went through a horrible break up in August 2010 with my ex fiance. We were living together at the time, but I moved into my own place in September of that year because he stopped paying his half of the rent. We had a mutual friend who fell on hard times and asked me if he could stay with me till he got on his feet. I let him move in (strictly friends) and he started having another mutual friend come over and hang out. That friend was also going through a break up so he was at my house almost every day. One thing led to another and we started messing around in December 2010. Everything was amazing. We clicked so well, never had a problem, it felt so surreal. He moved in with me in January because his ex was living in his house and had 3 kids (by previous relationships) and he did not want to throw them on the streets. Well mid Feb. she sends a text of a pregnancy test. She was three months along. I decided to accept it since it happened before me and we went from there. Everything went back to normal and things were perfect.

    He went to all doctor visits, which I was cool with, and stayed at the hospital the whole 3 days when she had their daughter. After she was born we started fighting a lot because I felt like he was not involving me in any way. He sent out a mass text of the baby to all of our friends but disclosed me. I basically had to pry her name out of him. We sat down and talked and he explained that this is his first child and he is struggling with how to go about this. I accepted it at the time, but it seemed to get worse after that. We were sharing his car because I totaled mine and he was almost never on time to take me to work or class. We ended up getting into a huge fight two weeks after she was born and broke up. He moved out and we did not speak for a whole month. After the month we ran into each other and started to work things out. We were dating again and messing around. He brought his daughter around and was being very open compared to the private person he is. He moved back in November and we found out I was 6 weeks pregnant Dec. 1st. After talking we both decided it would be best to have an abortion. His daughter was only a few months, I was not done with school and I was on the depo shot and had been drinking a lot because I did not know. Again everything went back to normal and we were better then ever. His daughter spends mon-fri at our house and we get the weekends to ourselves.

    Here is the kicker, in feb 2012 his ex tells him she is 4/5 months pregnant again with a boy. He told me the same day and I am floored. It had happened when we were broken up, so I could not be mad. I was more hurt and stressed. We have talked about the future and I felt like all our plans were gone. I took some time away to think things through and ultimately decided to accept it and move forward, again. Things went back to normal for us. They were not on good terms this time around so he avoided the doctors and picked his daughter up through relatives.

    She went into labor 3 1/2 weeks early and had their son May 29 2012. I just do not know how to feel right now. He was more open this time around. He sent me pictures and is making sure to be home at night and not be as distant as before. But I still find myself needing more. On one hand I feel like my feelings are justifiable and I need to confront him, while on the other I feel like I may be being selfish and need to give him his space to deal with everything.

    I just really need some unbiased opinions on what I should do. I love him and I want to be with him, but I do not know if our relationship is good for me. Like right now he is not home and I feel like crying because I know she should out of the hospital by now. Are they at her house playing family? I know they need to have a healthy relationship for their kids, but I do not want to feel like I come last all the time. I know it is easy to look into a situation and pass judgment because you are not in it. I am looking for helpful advice from people who can see this for what it is without feeling involved. I am too wrapped up in our relationship to make a rational decision right now

    Thanks in advance…

  • Anny

    We was together for 7 years and we moved in together January of this year and we broke up at the end of May. He told me that he doesn’t feel comfortable living with me and wants me to get my own place but we still stay together. So i have to move out because it was his apartment but my name is on the lease. Right now i don’t have enough money to move i will have it by October 1. It been really hard living with him, especially because i want him. He always comes to me to start with me so we joke around, play fight have water fight like when we was together, I can be in one room and he always comes to me to bother me and asking me to rub his head. He says its easier to be friendly toward each other rather than be mad at each other and don’t talk but I feel we are overly friendly. When one of cook we always make enough for the other person or if we buy take-out its always enough for the other person. We have been sleeping in the same bed since last week because the sofa is broken and smells really bad. We haven’t had sex with each other since we broke up. IDK know what to do it very hard to get over him when we are playing around so much. Can someone give me advice. Im 28 and he is 29

  • borabora5524

    I’m 29 weeks and 4 days pregnant, I need serious help with my asshole boyfriend.

    I stress out every single day over what needs to be done with myself and the baby, my own health issues, the pains and hormones of pregnancy, the anxiousness and fear of labor (this is my first) and well, any of you who have borne a child know what I’m going through somewhat.

    However, the topper here is, my boyfriend quit his job in January (yes, QUIT his job during this horrible economy… AND we live in detroit, even harder to get a job then anywhere else – where he was making $500-$600 a WEEK, and left because his boss was a supposed asshole to him) and it’s almost May now and he hasn’t found a job, and is even PICKY about what jobs to look into. He either goes with “But I don’t know how to do that kind of work” or “I’m not working at McDonald’s, Dollar store, Restaurant… (just put any minimum wage job in here) because that’s not a real job and I’d like to make more than $75 a week” or whatever excuse he wants to use. Lets not forget that “looking for a job” means going online once every few days to check his email to see if anyone has run across his resume and has a job offer…. OH YEAH… and not only that, any job with drug testing is out of the question too according to him. Yeah…

    That’s the worst of all problems, but not the only!

    For someone thus far is like this, he acts like he has a place in this world to ask me multiple times often enough if I’m cheating on him, lying to him, put me down, disrespect me, insult my friends/family, etc etc etc.

    He also feels he has the right to put it in my face if I don’t reschedule a doctor appt quick enough because Im too busy with something or don’t feel good.. no I’m not trying to make excuses for myself, I realize how important I need to do all of that, I’m just saying that this person in particular is acting superior because I haven’t done something important, and it makes him feel righteous.

    Three days ago we were supposed to go to the movies. He postponed it the first day because he was going to clean the bedroom. Instead he took a nap at 3pm and I woke him up at 9pm. Then he yelled at me because I didnt wake him up for the movie… though I was told we were going the next day. The next day it didn’t happen because he said he was going to clean the room again, and ended up not. Then today I didn’t say one peep about it… I knew we werent going. I don’t care that much about going to the movies but we never go out and do anything, or do anything together anyways. Soooo what did I do today? I spent the ENTIRE day online doing whatever I wanted to do because that’s how he’s been spending HIS days since January.

    So what happened? I was ignored all day today while he watched movies and t.v. at home, and accused of “cheating on him because I was playing on IMVU and he seen a “guy” on the screen. Grant it, I had just downloaded the damn thing and chose a random avatar to start with, so because of whatever hoochie outfit she was wearing, he told me later tonight “Yeah, my ex may have been a skank, but at least she didnt hide it.” So, apperently i’m a skank who hides it. (and I said just that after what he said) and he said “Well yeah I guess so, when you’re walking around in a teddy and stillettos and theres a guy on your screen”
    It was a black dress, and black high heels… and its a motherf*ck*ng game.
    I even explained to him multiple times, because obviously hes a little slow and doesnt get it the first time (oh wait, he never got it…) that i had just downloaded the damn thing today. NOT that i needed to explain myself. I told him I didnt want to talk to him anymore for the rest of the day at least because he was stressing me out and killing our baby (i didnt say the baby part, but thats what the stress is doing to it!) and i didnt need to take anymore of his bullshit.

    So after a few more times of him bringing up this b.s. i started minimizing windows when he sat down next to me to watch t.v. and was asked what I was hiding from him. I told him I wasnt hiding anything, and that I simply didnt want to hear the same bullshit as before. Then later today, is when the ‘skank who hides it’ comment came in.

    After he kept insisting whatever I did with my day today was against the means of our relationship, in which he has no idea what I did with my day today but only because he didnt listen to me, I kept saying over and over and over “I dont want to talk to you. I dont want to listen to you. Dont talk to me anymore” and after a few minutes he said “Then leave” because I didn’t want to be verbally battered anymore.

    So I told him, fine I would (no Im not immature, Ive had PLENTY of problems with him throughout our relationship, so Ive been through a lot and enough to be able to say something like that and not be immature about it. Lots of dwelling on our relationship and our past and if this is healthy or not and etc) So I got up and started grabbing
    my things, packing them and he said “See you later” as soon as I got up, I told him “No you wont be, and your supposed son either” and he laughed in my face, then said Oh yeah, we wont know if its mine until its out (He LOVES saying this during an arguement, and TRUST me it’s his. Hes my 2nd partner/boyfriend ever, and my first boyfriend had a vasectomy, and I was there during the procedure, AND I had a couple periods when me and my now boyfriend were first together… he knocked me up quick) aaaanyways, I said my remark, “supposed son” because thus far he doesnt even act like a father, meaning being irresponsible leaving his job over something so stupid, not getting another job or even trying, … you know what Im getting at.

    I’ll just stop the entire book Im writing here now, and start taking in some advice. Please please PLEASE do not:

    – Tell me to leave him
    Im aware of the option. I’m trying my hardest to find some advice we missed and could use. Some of you are pretty brigh
    bright out there and I’m sure SOMEONE has some good advice besides a simple ‘leave him’

    – Put me/him down
    I’ve obviously been through a lot of putting down today, I don’t need to hear any more b.s. for those of you who may want to call us/me/him childish or immature, and I obviously spent a lot of time here now saying enough bad about him [but its all the truth and an asset to my problem] I know what an asshole he is, and dont need anyone to agree with me… or him.

    – Tell me to leave him
    I cant stress it enough…

    -Ask me why I’m still with him
    I have my reasons, and still do, and obviously Im looking for help with this to be able to keep those reasons.

    I am simply on here asking a question looking for what everyone on here asking a question is looking for… advice on fixing the problem, without going to the extreme. The extreme will always be an option. I’m looking for another option if theres one available before taken the extreme.

  • timq3dimensionscom

    Ok – here’s the situation. I am 29, and back in July 2010 I split from my ex fiance.
    I got on a dating/friend-making site. A guy messaged me by mistake. Over the next 2 weeks it was so intense with constant texting back and forth, same interests etc. He asked if he could take me out for dinner.
    We met and there were hugs and conversation – lovely.
    Two weeks later we met up again and it was just so relaxed. I remember looking at the clock and praying for the time to slow down. The night ended in more hugs.
    A week later we got last minute tickets for a concert and again there were hugs and chatting and just relaxing into eachothers company.
    The following week we went out again and it was even more perfect – more hugs etc.
    That night he texted “I guess you know I’ve been kinda holding back when it comes to you.” Well here we go, I thought…did NOT know that. He said he had been wanting to grab my hand, get more affectionate etc. but didn’t want to ever hurt me or lead me on. He said the times we had been spending together had been really lovely but his life was complicated right now. He put a lot of emphasis on stating that even though it was complicated now, it wouldn’t always be, and that if he sorted his crap out I’d know “trust me.” I obviously said I liked him too, but I probably had crap of my own to sort out after such a long relationship. We agreed to be friends but made it very clear how we felt about one another.
    We went out again a week later to the cinema, park and for food.Then we went out again two weeks later to a concert. We got into this intense (if you can describe it as that??) hug where he held his arms around my neck from behind. It ended up going on for 5 mins and eventually the night ended with more hugs.
    This all happened over September to November. Then he started to go quiet on me. Mid November he apologised for going distant and stated that he had a lot of crap stuff happening. I told him not to worry and I was there if he ever needed a chat or a friend.
    November/December passed with less texts. We stopped texting every night. I figure I don’t wanna bug him too much if he has bad stuff happening – give him some space. I checked if he wanted me to disappear altogether and he said don’t be silly. That I was one of his best friends and to text when I liked. Just because he wasn’t in contact as much, didn’t mean he wasn’t thinking of me. He asked at one point on October if I’d be a date for his Xmas party but it came and went. He’s always sent me random texts and he plays guitar so I’d get my fave songs sent to me via video, pics he drew, asking my opinions on clothes etc. We even got Xmas presents for one another but have yet to exchange them. He got no presents for Xmas apparently and his mum went to his sister’s all day, so I can only presume family problems.
    January and February have been sparse with communication. I felt like I should give him the benefit of the doubt and space to get himself back together without clouding him with my texts. I was still there **every few days popping a smiley text and joke etc. or saying about bands he would like. The responses became less and less. In an MSN chat I found out it had been his birthday and he never told me. This kind of upset me as we became so close. This is when I wasn’t sure what was going on. He also told me he was still going through a really rough time.
    As these 2 months went on I knew I loved him. But towards the end of Jan and Feb I sent messages and got no response. I got upset even though I knew he was having a hard time
    I got it into my head that he just didn’t want to hear from me. I thought (stupidly) that no one I liked was gonna like me and that I had imagined all this chemistry and attraction. I signed up for two dating sites again but everyone I talked to, I was comparing to HIM. I just didn’t seem to connect with anyone in the same way. It got to the end of Feb and I randomly went to a fortune teller. I don’t normally believe in this stuff – complete sceptic. However, he was accurate about things he could never have guessed. He told me I had been “obsessing” about one man who he said has trust issues but there is a romantic future written for us if we just trust one another.
    Well I was over the moon – the universe had practically told me we were meant to be! As I went to take myself off the dating sites the following weekend (the anniversary of my engagement a year previous, so I was emotional anyway), I found a familiar face come up in my search. HIM. LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP. LAST LOGGED IN WITHIN THE LAST 30 DAYS. I did not know how to play this. I’m a nice person so I tried not to jump to conclusions. I sent him a message on there saying “fancy seeing you on here?! Hope you find someone x.”
    Well I received no response. His profile was deleted a few days later. I popped him a
    I guess I just feel he isn’t two timing me as he seemed to be honest by stating he couldn’t take things further even if he wanted to as his life was too complicated.

    Can you be two-timed by someone you’re not seeing romantically? He never made any committment to me other than friendship. Grrrrr.

    Thanks for the answers btw.

  • sean

    This guy I started seeing in January disappeared from 4/7 tp 4/22 (didn’t call me and didn’t return my calls) Then I got a text from him on 4/22 saying he was sorry, that he had been on the road, etc. We made up on 4/23, but hadn’t really talked about it. Then he didn’t call for the whole week, I had tried calling once and texting once with no reply. I left him a myspace message 4/29 asking what was going on…then 4/30 I left him a phone message telling him not to bother calling…I was fed up. I ended up sleeping with another guy on that day,an old friend w/ benefits…then 5/1 I got a response back on mypsace…he had had a lot of shit going on, and was again sorry…I sent him back saying I was confused and frustrated but told him how much I still liked him. I don’t know if I should keep playing this game with him. And if we do sort things out, how do I tell him I’ve been with someone else? Should I keep fighting for him?
    I feel like he’s the one who deserves better…like I did something horrible…he has the song Don’t Wanna Loose You Right Now up on his myspace

  • _marky_mark_

    We was together for 7 years and we moved in together January of this year and we broke up at the end of May. He told me that he doesn’t feel comfortable living with me and wants me to get my own place but we still stay together. So i have to move out because it was his apartment but my name is on the lease. Right now i don’t have enough money to move i will have it by October 1. It been really hard living with him, especially because i want him. He always comes to me to start with me so we joke around, play fight have water fight like when we was together, I can be in one room and he always comes to me to bother me and asking me to rub his head. He says its easier to be friendly toward each other rather than be mad at each other and don’t talk but I feel we are overly friendly. When one of cook we always make enough for the other person or if we buy take-out its always enough for the other person. We have been sleeping in the same bed since last week because the sofa is broken and smells really bad. We haven’t had sex with each other since we broke up. IDK know what to do it very hard to get over him when we are playing around so much. Can someone give me advice. Im 28 and he is 29